There are many celebrities that honor their fans’ requests for autographs. But sometimes their generosity can be abused, and fans can cross a line. Those of us in the fan mail and through the mail (TTM) autograph collecting hobby often are myopic. We have an insular view when sending an autograph request only seeing it from our perspective. An individual request can seem somewhat trivial to the signers’ time. However, that’s because we don’t often get to see what it’s like from their perspective—except of course, when we do. I have complied a few examples of when the public got a rare glimpse into the hobby from the signer’s perspective.
1. Alex Trebek
Perhaps the most notable example is Alex Trebek. In August 2020 (only three months before he lost his battle with cancer) he shared a shocking post. He revealed the enormous volume of fan mail that he would receive regularly. Alex loved his fans and signed right until the end with some fans even receiving their items back after his passing.
According to Jeopardy’s website, Alex addressed his fans in the following way “As you can see, the volume of mail I’m receiving is getting out of hand. The thoughts conveyed show so much support, and I appreciate that. However, it has now reached the point that I am overwhelmed and will no longer be able to respond to every request, and none that are sent to my home. Please know that your good wishes are welcome, and I appreciate them all.”
2. Steve Blum
3. Mary Costa
Sometimes, as was the case with with Mary Costa who voiced Princess Aurora, the volume of fan mail and autograph requests becomes so overwhelming that a signer is no longer able to sign. For many, it can be a truly time consuming endeavor as these individuals can quickly become victims of their own success.
4. Lacey Evans
WWE wrestler Lacey Evans ripped into what was probably a well assuming fan for sending fan mail to her home address. You never know where a signer’s personal boundaries are so it’s always best to err on the side of caution. Try contacting a celebrity’s agency or a venue first, in the case the WWE Performance Center, to do your best to respect their space when requesting autographs.
5. Natalie Portman
There is a dark side to fame. People can be cruel and those in the public eye often experience horrible things said to them by “fans”. Child stars are especially vulnerable to this. Natalie Portman found this out at the young age of 13. She spoke about how she experienced “sexual terrorism” at that tender age.
Have Stories to Share?
If you know of more people sharing their experiences with fan mail and autograph requests (good or bad) please post them in the comments below! If you would like to avoid some of the bad etiquette that leads to burn-out check out my how-to post here.